Traditional engagement ceremony, that characteristic is manifested in many aspects from understanding the concept of marriage to gifts and especially it is also associated with the life, thinking, beliefs of the population. clan.
Therefore, it can be said that the marriage ceremony of each ethnic group is a particular feature, a particular nuance of the marriage ceremony of the Kho Mu people in Ky Son, Nghe An is one of the outstanding nuances of the nation. However, national cultural identity must be sometimes immutable and it is constantly changing according to each specific historical circumstance, although it retains its original character and foundation.
Preparation
After some time of thorough study, the couple wants to go to build a family and the girl's parents like the guy, the boy informs his parents about their love. In the event that parents agree with their son's full choice, they must prepare everything to go to the bride's family for a marriage ceremony.
The engagement ceremony is intended to prepare an agreement for the marriage. On the side of the groom's family must always be proactive in all matters related to the wedding day so that both sides of the family can agree.
On the day of his family's appointment in the family, he brought the gifts to the girl's house and conducted the engagement ceremony. The girl's house also invited her cousins to discuss.
Participants include two married couples (lam) and the boy's parents, in addition to having some additional relatives. In the marriage of the Kho Mu people in Ta Co, he and his wife have a very important role, representing the groom's family in all jobs approaching the bride's family, and also the liaison between the two families. in the process of preparing for the wedding. When choosing a husband and wife match, must choose very carefully. They must be the people over 45 years old, must be a happy couple, have many descendants, have many life experiences, are experienced people who know how to behave in life. The matchmakers must be reputable with everyone, respond quickly, in addition to a deep understanding of wedding ceremonies, who are smart at eating, speaking, shrewd, belonging to many songs, rich cultural capital from folk songs, proverbs, idioms related to custom of marriage of Kho Mu people. The matchmaker is the one who directs the organization to lead all the steps in the wedding.
Gifts of the wedding
The offering ceremony was very simple, bringing only 4 bottles of white wine to the girl's house. When the boys 'family went to the girls' family, they expressed their initial welcome attitude by opening the toast. After the representative of the boy's family asked the parents of the girl to ask her daughter if she would agree to get engaged to the man who loved her. If all goes well, the girl agrees and her parents agree, the bride's family receives alcohol and accepts the offer of the daughter to the groom's family.
The taboo
The groom's family always has to pay for the wedding of both the groom's and the bride's family. The groom's family always tries to accept every wedding challenge of the girl's family fully. The engagement ceremony plays an important role to proceed to the small wedding ceremony. Although it is not celebrated, the content of the engagement ceremony greatly affects the marriage of the Kho Mu people. Whatever the two sides agree on during the engagement ceremony, so is the wedding, so it cannot be changed otherwise the life will not be smooth.
With the Kho Mu people in Ta Co commune as well as the Kho Mu people in other communes in the district, he plays a very big role and plays an important role in marrying and picking up children for their children. It is customary for the girl's parents to inform his uncle for his participation in the negotiation process between the two families, and his advice is very important in choosing a beard and cocoon. If your grandfather doesn't agree with the groom, the marriage will be canceled even though the girl and her family really like the boy.
If the groom's family has set a date and time to question the girl's house but at that time in the village where the bride's family is having funerals, the engagement ceremony will be transferred to another day. The people think that this is an important ritual among human life, so it must be a good and good day.
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