Holding a wedding ceremony is a very important turning point in a person's life and also the happiest day, the deepest memory of a couple after having interrogated, must say "playing together so the door" , moving together so home. " Depending on the ethnic group, each region, each historical period, the wedding ceremony takes place differently.
Studying weddings helps us to recognize the lifestyle of people in that society.
Prepare the ceremony for the daughter to be a bride.
Want to be a wife, so the husband must first undergo contacts, predestined. In Muong Bi, boys and girls often have the opportunity to meet each other on festivals, fairs, in weddings, evenings often at night, or in the days of drinking wine or dating under a tree. moonlit nights.
Boys from this village moved to other villages to get to know each other is the main, a few couples by their own parents arranged each other to report the family's wedding. The wedding ceremony in Muong Bi is organized quite rich, diverse, sequentially through the following steps.
- Proposing to visit: Muong Bi is called to go "probing". When looking at a girl in the Muong or find her son is beautiful, just pair with a certain girl, the boys' family finds a person in the Muong who can speak smartly and respect the bride's family so that he can be dimmed. the boy's face to the family to consult with the girl's family. He often goes away in the evening on the tree (according to Muong Bi schedule) to his wife's house to ask questions. On the first day when he came to the house, he did not bring anything with him, just came to question, general idea: the uncle or the uncle over there saw that our grandchildren were okay with them. Can you love him or not? On this day, the owner of the girl's house did not say anything, but slowly replied, "Yes, I asked, I would like to thank you, but let my wife and I ask you again. The chicken must also ask each other what the situation is. Hearing that, he faded away. A few days later he came to talk about the previous day. The owner at that time agreed to marry his daughter and said, "Know what you believe now, someday you will have a teapot, or a bottle of wine with me and tell each other to believe. I asked him, sounding like he might like to go to the house. Upon hearing that news, he came to the house of the younger brother and told him: “If you asked me, that party will be happy to hear that, but there is a new package to speak up, you can give me a bottle of wine or a teapot I try again. star". So the "notorious" binoculars started. On this day, he brought two bottles of wine or a tea cup as a gift. The girl's family saw him dim to be a great joy for the family. They know that their daughters have grown up and beautiful, fragrant fragrance spread in the neighborhood, in the muong has been noticed by many boys. That night the parents of the girl's family held a small fun, he groped while drinking and chatting with his family. At the end of the fun, the owner of the girl's family said: “Dads, grandchildren or grandparents who want to love my child, thank you very much, my family asked my opinion, what did you say? do, wear the right to parents. " At that time, the bride's family only had a word to tell her that the date of her "birthday" was for her son.
- Cake tin (offering betel nuts)
Good days and good fortune, the male leader led the boys' family to the house of the bride and betel. The offering includes a large about 20-25kg, two loads of rice about 40-50kg, a burden of rice cakes 120 degrees, four, five bottles of wine, areca 1 chamber, betel leaf hundred leaves. All for beautiful basket, Muong Bi is called another knitting. Nine or ten boys, girls and boys carry these to the bride's house. Today the bridegroom has not gone.
After eating and drinking happily, the representative of the groom's family talked first. The representative for the new bride's family talked to her. After the "ti ni" about, the boys are more or less prepared to take care of the official wedding day for their children. A few days before the wedding, the boys bought a ceremony of wine or betel nut for him to blur to the bride's family to get married. Muong Bi is called nui nui. This day the bride's family officially announces the date of the wedding.
In order for their son's wedding day to be thoughtful, first of all, his family invited the nearest grandfather to the meeting table to ask for money and rice. After making a list of the interior and exterior, the groom's family prepared gifts, maybe cakes, maybe tea packages to each house asking for donations. Usually, our relatives and friends help each other get a bowl of rice and an ancient silver coin (one piece of rice is equivalent to 10 matches of sticky rice), and cousins, close friends, villages from near and far depend on their ability to help. support.
- The first wedding ceremony (li niece)
After the meeting, the official wedding ceremony has begun, Muong Bi called "li niece". The first wedding ceremony of the groom's family includes: rice 120 cups (about 100kg), pigs from 40-50kg or more and a small pig that they call it a big hoot, wine of two dozen bottles, areca one chamber, betel nut leaves, from 2-4 sugar cane. The number of people to follow depends on, as long as there are enough paternal, maternal, friends about 3-4 dozen people led by termites. The groom wears beautiful clothes, chit white towels, holds a bowl of cooked rice (about 10 matches of rice), which is cooked, on the mouth to feed two boiled live castrated chickens. And two other boys can be on the side of one side, one side of the grandmother also holds two bowls of cooked rice, no chickens on, Muong Bi is called pieng. Whether the girl's house is far or near in Muong Bi, it is customary: "I will build a buffalo and have a golden face", that is: the groom's family will go to the bride's house when the buffalo returns to the stable (about 5 pm) still have to wait at dark to welcome the bride to the house (around 7 pm). If they arrive earlier than the scheduled time, the boys' family may have to wait for hours to climb the ladder. When the boys' guests wash their feet and prepare to enter the house of mischievous girls, the girls often wait for guests to come in to pull the strings to nest the red and black ants hanging on the branches, the fence falls down to cling to burn the guests. Particularly, the groom and the two groomsmen must stay at the girl's house to receive guests. By the third night, the bride's family had a small party called "niece-grandchildren" to get married. The next morning, the bride's family fully prepared gifts for her son-in-law. Every activity of my wedding day takes place to end. When the boys' guests wash their feet and prepare to enter the house of mischievous girls, the girls often wait for guests to come in to pull the strings to nest the red and black ants hanging on the branches, the fence falls down to cling to burn the guests. Particularly, the groom and the two groomsmen must stay at the girl's house to receive guests. By the third night, the bride's family had a small party called "niece-grandchildren" to get married. The next morning, the bride's family fully prepared gifts for her son-in-law. Every activity of my wedding day takes place to end. When the boys' guests wash their feet and prepare to enter the house of mischievous girls, the girls often wait for guests to come in to pull the strings to nest the red and black ants hanging on the branches, the fence falls down to cling to burn the guests. Particularly, the groom and the two groomsmen must stay at the girl's house to receive guests. By the third night, the bride's family had a small party called "niece-grandchildren" to get married. The next morning, the bride's family fully prepared gifts for her son-in-law. Every activity of my wedding day takes place to end.
For the next few years, after Tet holiday, the bridegroom had to bring offerings to the girl's parents called "to take care of the family". The offerings bring with you the economic power of each family. Well-off people often carry bread, alcohol, rice, and fish (ie, fish are cooked with sour bamboo shoots or moi) and a pig is about 10-20kg. After receiving the ceremony, the bride's family invited neighbors to come and share the fun. The two families of boys and girls wish each other on the occasion of the spring new year wishing more and more intimate relations.
Marriage of Muong people in Muong Bi almost stipulates that a bride or a bride can take a few years. During that time, the bride's family had something wrong to call the bridegroom to help, at night, she slept in the outer space not near her wife.
This time is also an opportunity for the bride and groom to challenge each other and to recognize each other's characteristics, fully understand their future husbands and wives. If, during that period, the boy or the girl were negligent, either party could refuse the marriage to return each other's possessions.
- The ceremony to welcome the bride (ti du)
The ceremony to welcome the bride, all expenses are borne by the groom's family. Picking up the bride on any day, the relatives of the groom's family brought things to celebrate, mainly money, in addition to self-woven fabric or ready-made dress. On this day, the bride's family invited about thirty-three people from all sides with their paternal and maternal grandparents to take strawberries. On the day of the husband's house, even without the rain or the sun, the bride had to wear a hat, a beautiful dress, and a black dress with two ties in front. There are two people from one side of the paternal side, and one of the paternal side goes together called "piêng du". The bride brought home to her husband's house, and it was very difficult for her family to have two pillows, often two blankets, two lots, two big pillows to give to her parents-in-law, and dozens of pillows for her son to give to her uncle. , dear aunt. Leading the girls' union were the termite and two young girls from the boy's family came to welcome the bride. The delegation went home at dusk. The groom's family has prepared sparkling wine, he vows to pray for wine, vow rice, pray ancestor altar, take the bride to present before the ghost house. Entertainment fun lasts all night, all morning. The bride and penguins stay for three days then the bride's family will hold a ceremony for the bride to visit her birth parents.
In weddings the role of the matchmaker is very important, people have the saying: "He lifted the pond, the person who dug the well" is his reference. Formerly, if any husband or wife ate and lived in disharmony, Muong Bi called him to be blamed, even in some cases, he was tried for irresponsibility in teaching young couples. In any wedding ceremony, he will be entitled to a separate tray quite hearty. The family of a boy or a girl slaughtering a pig, termites are "eaten", that is, the meat of the buttocks has a tail of the pig. Muong Bi has a saying:
“Weak men, don't go digging mountains
Short-term, short-mouth do not go to termites ”
Welcoming a bride to a boy or girl who has not shared a blanket or a pillow right away, they still have to travel for a while, sometimes every year. When the bride is used to eating at her husband's house, the boy's family chooses a kind and easy-to-raise daughter, waiting for a good day to come and screen and stretch the curtain for the new couple. At this time, the new bridegroom no longer has to "compensate for the field" (according to the concept in Muong Bi is to end the time of the challenge, to stop the time of being considered as a guest who must lie outside) to be able to sleep in, and girls and boys officially wife and husband. If they share a blanket, they share a mat with the girl's parents, that is, the house of the dream, the bridegroom, before going to the room, they have to bow to their parents three times, meaning to ask permission.
In general, before the August Revolution, the marriage of Muong Bi had to go through many costly steps for the boys' family, the waiting time of the couple. After the reconciliation day, weddings wasting time and wealth have greatly decreased, boys and girls do not have to wait as long as before. Weddings today are organized in a light manner, not necessarily all the costs have been reduced, but rituals of basic superstition have ended. The tradition of helping each other, the forms of playing and singing as often as they are, the custom of drinking wine is being promoted in the new weddings today.
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